Parents to the child's fate. Any change in the child's intention to change the parents themselves have to start from. Concept of parent education on the
their dereliction of duty
without children is realized if the parents of children growing every day, and every situation the importance of children to know that these circumstances will have an enormous impact, then the parents and the ability to work with children and have a natural and approaches.
always reason to want to do something, do not want to do one thing to make an excuse.
round one and three months old when her father for a leave of absence in the original units, the work went to Xiamen. I was still in the original units of work, a person living with children are faced with great difficulties. The home for the elderly when they can not come to help.
round grandma in another county, the distance we were living in Inner Mongolia Jining Shi was seven or eight hours by car, and her grandfather was already living can not take care of themselves need care. Her grandmother lived in the more distant a flag, take the shuttle bus was ten hours, the family has a big stall job, not get away. But her grandmother was born in the back round has not yet said to us, if work is busy, put the kids to go back home, from her care. Dad now know that the round to go to the field, the more eagerly asked me to send their children back, said she can definitely take care of their children.
I know her mother is a person clean and deft, and very kind, certainly in terms of diet and daily life than I will take care of children. But I declined, I would have kids. We were already looking for a lady in the neighborhood, sent her children to work during the day, noon and night, pick up their kids off work to go home, pick four times a day. President to discuss the old lady I Xiamen, gave her added more money and not take the child out at noon.
but I do not therefore a little easier. Ever since the children, housework as if multiplied by 3, what becomes increased recently. Before her father at home, we were one person working one of the children, yet it extremely busy, now I am a person should not only work but also to look over her, feeling housework on the basis of the multiplied by 3 and multiplied by 2.
toddler time round, it is the most exhausting time, stumbled around, while not law-abiding. Also curious of all, you would have moved. I can not leave her eyes a moment, where the work, you must bring her to where.
cooking, the little urinal to take into the kitchen, try to coax her to get on do not move; wipe, we should make her stay longer in the walker in order to empty out two hands Come get Mop; laundry into the laundry when she first bucket, while she was on that
but she does not want to subject my mercy, I'm often anxious to cook, and she hugged my legs wrapped around Mozhe to hug; I want to wash the dishes, she refused handed her hands toys, want me to tell stories; I hurry up to go to work after dinner, she spilled a confused dinner, need to change clothes ... ... I never got so busy from morning to night, really feel the need to grow to be superhuman cope.
I've always less likely to do chores. Family old and young, the top two sisters and two brothers, too small to be used to idle; married and met a hard working President, almost all the job at home so he did. It suddenly alone and children are busy, busy with household chores, go to work, very tired.
my blood pressure dropped to the point that the doctor felt incredible, that I should stay in bed, but I was doing the same as a lot of places.
do not trust her mother again sent word to, want me to send their children back. Sister in another city would also like to help me with children, her son was already in primary school, she worked very busy and do something quick and neat. I know they will take care of both children, but I decided to bring their own, on their good intentions have declined.
I can be so insistent, mainly based on two considerations. One child's elementary education. Mother did not attend school, and she certainly not as good as me in this regard. Second, consider the child's feelings. I would like for a child, grandmother and aunt and then hurt her, and she needs every day to see her mother, the child's emotional needs, no one can replace her mother. Many people around me to give their children to the elderly living in the field of view, a month or a few months to see a child. They say small children are not naive, and do not want to mother a few days to cry, and get used to it. I do not think something so simple, it can not see from the round was suddenly able to feel on the father's bewildered.
Although she does not speak, but some of her performance and occasionally some of the words to express, I can feel her little heart must have been for a long time but sorry to see my father. If she suddenly can not see the mother, and she and her grandmother, aunt and not very familiar with, really hard to imagine that case, the child will be how little heart pain. I also consider, if we sent her cruel grandmother or aunt, two or three years I bring her back, she did not know how long a period of time but also the emotional loss.
American child psychologist Benjamin Sparks that only six months old baby, also because of the father or mother to take care of their own sudden departure, while the loss of one of the objects of interest, do not open smile and not eating, serious mental depression, a child grow up, optimistic or pessimistic attitude of life his life, warm or cold, and his many letters or suspicious, which depends largely on their first two years of the person primarily responsible for caring for their attitude. do not exist, a single day by day to witness the growth of a child, I have his kids. I almost did not on this issue hesitated.
to the south a year later her father, and I do a leave of absence from the unit and started the day with the travel extensively. We are stable for several years for it, work has been busy tired; but we always put the round side and did not let her go one day.
not make us feel how the whole process is not easy, how tired, how hard, on the contrary, The child is actually getting better and better band. Under the personal care of their parents, the round both intellectual and emotional development of very healthy, without any let her headache, difficult to solve problems. Including other aspects of their daily life, we have been feeling is simple and handy.
easy in this respect, the more apparent the bigger kids. We even have a regret from the heart - how the child is growing up so fast, has not had enough to suddenly grown up.
see us around some of the children never seem to worry about, the child has good grades, but also naive, and think that we parents are very easy to do, to the envy of our life is good.
Then I always automatically think of some parents, when children were young, how they neglect their children. Some people I even saw a mother, she is only looking out for her mother to the child's jealous wives, to deliberately year-old children they have given to the mother lived in another county. Such parents, the children were young, they are not concerned about his emotional needs and educational needs, to her children, with such kind of problems, fishes that their children complained again and again, lamenting their lives bitter, laments the parents is not easy to do.
infancy in the child the parents pay some more hard work, often skillfully deflected the question of the effect. The If you do this thing backwards, a child in the child pay attention,Discount UGG boots, not to educate their children seriously, to the children grow up, I do not know how much trouble. Who can a paper graffiti clean it?
2007 from the A boy named Chen Yu of Shanghai, dropped out of college, left home five years heard from since. Parents failed repeatedly to find out, has still not knowing where. Chen Yu parents were intellectuals, Chen Yu, born in 1987, the parents are busy with their careers, to his aunt's house to the field until only received around five years old. Imagine, the children leave their parents at an early age had a non-normal operation. When his aunt when the real people into custody, but five years old this has become more stable emotional age, separated from him and aunt, he was invested into a new and unfamiliar environment.
parents only need to dispatch according to their own children, they may have considered that this was not a plant or a small animal, but a person with rich thoughts and feelings; they can think of where the child in the process will What kind of psychological trauma fall. Reading between the lines
be seen from the reports, the parents get along in later, and Chen Yu, the lack of family communication, lack of communication on the harmony between children and parents with serious barriers - a lot of long-term custody of the child by others, After returning to her parents, and parents will show along disharmony. Chen Yu mean enough to leave from the family, prefer to make themselves into His parents are now retired, did not realize they may never lose his son.
What a sad thing ah.
Over the years, Their child to a reliable person to concentrate on their work input, this .
recent years, with
every adult interests and the interests of children in conflict, always choose the active adult who is a strong one; children always choose the passive side, the weaker side, so always make sacrifices and concessions children. The introduction of child-rearing responsibilities to this child rearing patterns of damage will not be immediately apparent, but the child not be in vain to make sacrifices and concessions will be any adverse growing up in his life, left their mark, as the future of His quality of life of a lesion, but also to bring the whole family a lot of trouble.
rural cause for concern.
City Sense of space that they and their parents together, every day or week to see see again. In essence, because the parents do not mind them, they have, and the growth of rural children left behind the same situation. This situation should be cause for concern.
three years ago I met one such example, a 10-year-old girl, temperament is very strange, poor academic performance. To demonstrate the attachment of the parents are very concerned about the attitude of her parents; the other hand, every day, and parents fighting, conflicts, and never willing to listen to their parents saying. Her parents are very capable, is an important unit in the head, very good economic conditions at home, from child birth specifically requested a nanny to look after their children at home. Mother to work three months after her birth, to do with children entirely to the nanny.
the face of a child has been living with their parents, but because their parents busy with work, daily morning to evening, and travel often, children and the nanny are all together from morning to night, even at night and the nurse is sleep with the children living in their own homes, but as a In this case, the child had a dependence on the nanny, the nanny is also very loving little girl, two had a very good relationship. Each nanny back home to visit relatives, the children do not want to go, business is also upset over her mother.
But a child 4 years old, parents and nannies on the remuneration of a conflict to resolutely dismissed the nanny, a nanny to find another. And the new nanny at the children do not come downtown all day, parents and back to nanny, or a fine not to, had to pulls. In a number of replacement nanny, the children grew old, she is no longer downtown, but no matter what the nanny the door, and the nurse refused to talk. In this way, the child is actually a person at home alone every day. Parents are still busy with work, with little time and children exchange. Sometimes together, is to ask your child's test scores or take her out for a meal. Until teachers inform the parents, the child absent to see someone outside, the girl was anxious parents. Mothers with children come to me, but her conversations without any means of self reflection, but that the child they have a problem, hope I gave the children doing the point of view, she showed very reluctant to accept.
When I reminded her that the child should not be entirely to the nanny, but ignore the kids and a nanny has been formed between the attachment relationship, she was unhappy, saying that a lot of other people's children are helped nanny with, someone's not-for-nanny, other people's children have no problems. When I proposed she should have enough time each day to accompany the child to speak, play and read the requirements, she was angry that I work so busy, how time with her and said I was a child my parents, no matter, this is not growth is also very okay. Finally, when I suggested that if your job makes you more busy than the average person, it is no time to take care of the child, then think of ways to change jobs, then your child is too cold before, now have to take a lot of time and effort to make up and repair, the child has been 10 years old, I worry and then further to push a few years may really no chance for improvement.
I recently heard that the girl was his parents to a The Many children like this girl, busy parents, family economic conditions are very good, the child is very Synthesizer,UGG boots, to be sent to this transformation. I also heard that the His son did not train well, but also as'd fulfill Dangdie to do a
heart I can not help sighing, spend money on Family education in a very big problem is that parents pay for child life, he refused to give their time and effort for the children.
those who pursue their careers and raise children against each other, those who do not care and kids quality time and get along with people, who realized that kids do not feel fine people, not that they do not love children, but bones and the kids do not think that is something important. In them, and their children, but is a treasure or a small animal, you can temporarily register a trusted person in there, then you can always get back intact. They do not see infants and young children are thinking of real people with feelings, emotions, growing every situation, where the children will leave scars - dog in foster care to someone's home, it will be because sudden changes in caregivers showing suited, the children will not even thought not a porcelain vase.
a small child call you mom and dad, it was not floating promise a thing, it need you in time, energy and mind to pay a lot. Since the decision to have children, will be responsible for the child, heart, and the children to get along as a very important job to be taken seriously. Do not put the child back home easily, helping the elderly or with relatives. Try to think of ways to keep kids at his side, preferably every day to see the child. There are practical difficulties to be overcome by the parents, do not let children to carry.
Even if you and your child live with and pay attention, do not mind just filled with work and social, just out of energy and time is running out of bits and pieces to be allocated to children. Do not the needs of the child carelessly, take it seriously, and children get along in this world, do not let your child exposure to fine room, has become a spiritual
If for objective reasons, and children often have to be separated, but also must find ways to minimize and reduce the emotional loss of a child, such as children and grandparents in advance, or other temporary caregiver feelings the days were often called to the children, and children to communicate more regularly to see the child, let the children feel their parents care about him at all times to minimize the child's sense of loss.
God made man, people naturally love their children, is to enable parents to raise their children carefully. Originally we work hard to create a better future, only to the
role as a parent how important that is related to a small child's fate, said a big bearing on the future of the whole nation, it must be faithful to do, not neglect, or is guilty of dereliction of duty . If parents realize children growing every day, and every situation important to know that these circumstances will have an enormous impact on children, then parents and kids and the ability to work and have a natural way. Want to do something there is always reason, do not want to do one thing to make an excuse.
famous contemporary writer Chi Li said, time, energy and mind. in essence, parents become confused, selfish, blind, and stupid, and lazy.
parents can not just criticize, I also want older people - children or grandfather grandmother grandparents say, maybe you have extensive experience with children, maybe you just retired, but he has very good Perhaps your children are now very much need your help, but in any case, no need to take care of your grandchildren on this matter, pet , and providing emotional and educational responsibility. So you may wish to do less in this matter some more things onto the children of their own to do, let them do their parents in the learning process, and he is into - further mature; which they were two generations is a very important and very meaningful!
Special Note
family education in a very big problem is that parents pay for child life, he refused to give their time and effort for the children.
not easily send their children back home, helping with the elderly or relatives. Try to think of ways to keep kids at his side, preferably every day to see the child. There are practical difficulties to be overcome by the parents, do not let children to carry.
Even if you and your child live with and pay attention, do not mind just filled with work and social, just out of energy and time is running out of bits and pieces to be allocated to children. Do not the needs of the child carelessly, to support and kids seriously on this matter, do not let your child's room in the body in fine, but a spirit of
the introduction to child-rearing responsibilities, which pull the child rearing style discussion will not be immediately apparent harm, but the children will not make the sacrifice in vain and concessions will be any adverse growing up in his life left traces of a yellow mass in his life after a lesion, but also to bring the whole family a lot of trouble.
happy home is the five-star hotel
we have created a child, not only has the responsibility to let him grow up and have a responsibility to his happiness.
we settle in Yantai, back in Beijing, Inner Mongolia, home to change, generally keep up with the car that day, you need to spend the night in Beijing. For the first time to go home this line, round 5 years old, before the Spring Festival.
My husband and I took a small round hand, and took two large bags, out of Beijing in a crowded railway station. Spring Festival travel peak, truly human are like the ants. Out of the station, hard to find a small piece of open space, put the bag on the ground, discuss where the live. There are many small hotels on the square of people to solicit business, we are not looking for those people, afraid of being taken, but also afraid run too far, to the nearest hotel to find a cheap and clean the next day on the train is also convenient.
looked to the surrounding, dense high-rise buildings, see our eyes full of confusion. Round eagerly asked: Stay clean and easy to find high-end hotels are too expensive, not willing to spend that money; live cheap, fear not clean; the right price, these days are full estimate, near may not be easy to find. Finally, we lamented that, if the money to do so embarrassed, direct to find a five-star hotel stay on the line. Although not participate in the round talks, but she can feel out of our dilemma. She lived 3 years of age had a small hotel experience, I do not know why feel uncomfortable, even where the sheets are unwilling to touch, may we fall asleep holding her to put her on the bed. Questioning at this time so she was worried about in fact, little heart is also anxious.
bent over her father brought back a box, pointing to the front of a high-rise luxury hotel, with the exaggerated tone: Look at her seriously, and we laughed, and quickly told her father was joking, we find a cheaper hotel nearby, make do with a night on the line. Round the game.
took the box and her little hands, walked attention to where the right hotel. Just passing through, Mr. refers to the upscale hotel that saw the doorman dressed, polite to the guests the car door, sending guests into the hotel lobby and act like a gentleman. Showing the envy of round eyes look. I sniggered at this little guy to eat her cake paintings, said to her: and so you grow up, make a lot of money to live in five-star hotel is good. This makes the round very fascinating, exciting to plan, said: I grew up a lot of money to make a lot of every day living five-star hotel! Me and her father laughed, and said: What ah? and our house is not the same as you, let the house to clean and comfortable bed.
I think, said: > I added the round was beyond expectations, but gave her some ease. Comparison
round immediately and said: , and our family has it! Let me think. Then take her father as saying: and different from what our house, our house has a refrigerator, and there was beer and drink, drink to drink. our house there is a lot of good food in the fridge ... and then ... What is it? think, could not think of anything new, she said,Bailey UGG boots, almost at home, some five-star hotel in all, will these. This time round, completely relieved, and she 由衷地感叹 an I said, look. She would like to further confirm that, and asked my father: we have lived in five-star hotel, I did not know it, thanks to you to find! Then we went to the line looks a Menlian front of the hotel, ready to go in and see. Round this time appear to have very calm out. Their own lives every day, five-star hotels, today live in a small hotel occasionally is no big deal. I just said reminded her: live in five-star hotel to stay at home every day. Church of God's. Yes ah, what kind of luxury to match the whole family happy with it. With the love of the house is home, the family lived happily together, and that is exposure to paradise! Fu Pei-jung of Taiwan well-known scholar, said: If a man is not a good family environment, it is difficult to start a normal life.
all parents are working hard to create a better life for their children, want children around the house playing a happy paradise. But how many people take the wrong way, they are hard to move things to the house, while inadvertently ruining the atmosphere around the house, so that every turn becomes a house husband and wife interest arena, a cold, lifeless palace . Child well-being of the owner of this, I do not know the family in the loss of such a number.
I know one family, the couple are very nice person, her husband a successful career, beautiful wife, capable, clever with a lovely daughter. Their lives in this that the
them on getting and there are no major conflicts with each other is also very concerned about each other, but it is some trivial matters do not deal with each other, and often disputes, who also admit defeat, and believe that the other side should make concessions . In the not very well-off families age, they often quarrel because of economic problems; to buy a car and two family suites, after the material terms are very favorable, and because the child's point of view of education as such is not the subject of dispute. In short, the life of any conflict to be resolved, what is the cause of their quarrel. After the Cold War is often noisy, a month or two do not speak. Have had the idea of divorce, but no essential contradiction with each other do not really want to leave, the days have been down in the awkward. Now, they reached middle age, finally learned that the struggle is meaningless, significant improvement in their relations, starting a new life, and the children already growing bad effect irreversible.
little girl in this family has been living in an atmosphere of frightened parents do not know when she will quarrel and become nervous, sensitive, no matter what the occasion, who voices slightly higher, the performance of her out of fear. Her childhood would particularly like father or mother has one business, because that will have a few days at home is well. Parents constantly bickering, and the Cold War, and now this girl has been in high school, her temperament depression, irritability, poor performance, no self-confidence, so that parents headaches to death. They are now most worried about is the children will not get into university, not self-how. They are now even more strenuously to make money, as if the children make enough to use up the assets of a lifetime. But no matter how much money, they take into account the child's problems are not security, no satisfaction. Family life, of course, can not be without conflict, saying the world without a quarrel couples, good family relationship does not mean just on good terms.
My husband and I often have conflicts, but we will generally be to avoid the round, in between the two solved the problem as soon as possible. Can not avoid them, we should try to restrain myself, at least not to quarrel frightened children. Sometimes you round out justice, we believe that children are often more objective view. We are sincerely listening to her views, from the perspective of the child to discover their own problems. Although she was a child often And I will always give her father, if he was angry that badly, or to fight to end, I would put their own Our argument has always been a quick fix, not onto the next day, not to long shrouded atmosphere of repression in our families. The behavior of the parents let the children see that some conflicts between people is normal, it is important what kind of attitude is resolved.
marriage is the most profound kind of relationships, the true human nature, cultural awareness, values, capacity for love, etc., are in such a relationship in the performance thoroughly. It is the lives of two adult co-wrote his autobiography, is to let them experience life the most beloved children's happiness, experience the beauty of life, understanding the relationship between people enlightenment materials.
even divorce, as long as the rational and decent, better than endless bickering children tortured. Philosopher Erich Fromm said: show that for children, the family atmosphere of tension and unhappiness, more harmful than the open break, because the latter educate their children at least, one can rely on courageous decision to end an intolerable living conditions. br> parents often want to save more money to the children, in fact, how much money can not buy children's joy. Loss of property today, and tomorrow you can get it back, but the child's growing sense of happiness, the loss of educational opportunities for once, will never be regained. Give your child a happy home for children in their physical and psychological aspects of healthy growth and harmonious development of body and mind to become a man, this is the parents give the child the most lucrative, lifetime access to endless wealth.
state if the family can be as marked as the level of the hotel, there is no harmony of happiness than the higher levels of a family atmosphere. House can be smaller, the old furniture to some electrical appliances can be a little less, but love and intimacy must be more - a happy home is five-star hotel. I am willing to put the words of another philosopher Erich Fromm quote here, and parents to share:
God promised to Abraham and his descendants the land (land is often a symbol of motherly love) is described as everywhere flowing with milk and honey. The first milk is a symbol of love, is the symbol of care and positive. Honey symbolizes the sweet life, life, happiness and love of life. Most mothers are able to give In order to give the child to honey, a mother must not only be a Mother, love of life will be like her anxiety as infected children. Both attitudes are on the whole personality of the child has a deep impact. Indeed, one can in the children - and adults distinguish between what people only get the
we have created a child, not only has the responsibility to let him grow up, and has the responsibility to make him happy. Special Note
house with love is home.
people without a good family environment, it is difficult to start a normal life.
marriage is the most profound kind of relationships, the true human nature, cultural awareness, values, capacity for love, etc., are in such a relationship in the performance thoroughly. It is the lives of two adult co-wrote his autobiography, is to let them experience life the most beloved children's happiness, experience the beauty of life, understanding the relationship between people enlightenment materials.
even divorce, as long as the rational and decent, better than endless bickering children tortured. When the children, the family atmosphere of tension and unhappiness, more harmful than the open break. Educate their children because the latter at least, one can end a decision by the brave intolerable living conditions.
only a approach, we have kids from the reward money is useless, is this the reward from their parents in a small little red flowers blossoming, it can not calculate the value of money, but very valuable in helping us to develop a child many good qualities.
age from round 4, I get her a small, dedicated her mind to do good. Little of this little page is only one thing in mind, the mind things are simple, basic only a few words, such as light take a toothpick, We put a small book called I found that every time a round Time to time will be had to count the number of their small red flowers.
the growth of this method is very good for children. First, children are praised, great sense of pride; the second is the small things in mind for her reminder, after her do not forget those good things; third is where the written word on this small, round can remember, she was often the way when a few small red read their deeds, but also recognize a lot of words.
on her post-primary school teachers often award a small red flower, is a small piece of paper in a small red seal cover, or save for dozens of small red flowers can be a Back of the class has a Round during the entire primary school, has the list, and the Certainly pleased our hearts, but not render it, to feel this is normal, nothing worth mentioning said. In doing so, worried about her and the students in the comparison of superiority will fear that she learned to deliberately go after
At the same time, the family's We have always thought that the most important during primary school children is to protect the interest in learning. Excessive focus on test scores, the rankings mean and are actually interested in learning digestion. When the child is guided to care for scores of adults, concerned about the ranking, he would not have been interested in learning itself. Schools have adequate rendering of the results, if the parents and then in waves, not only on the child's future learning does not promote, but counter-productive.
recorded during the elementary school so the content is nothing more than some trivial matters, such as End of the semester, but also remember how she got a total of what the semester award, mainly as a reminder. In addition, remember some of her book,
10 years old on her first day, live on campus, once a week back home, start not used, homesickness to be crying. She came back and said this week the second week did not cry, I'll write down up to her This period of These are some of her progress in the growth of Chinese and foreign, as well as down her inner progress and growth. She and I once had a dispute, the debate we have some unpleasant emotions. But she is not extreme to defend their point of view, but to think over the side of the debate, once recognized that her mother got a point to stop rebuttal, and then sort out with her mom and thinking. This is her maturity, but also a virtue. So I have this thing on the mind to small and award a small red flower. This makes the round more clearly, the debate is to distinguish right from wrong, not to knock each other down.
With the onset of puberty, children have become increasingly assertive personality, and she soon matured, painting seems to have little incentive safflower juvenile. Most important is the round personality, thinking, and learning has shown a stable good condition, we pay more attention to communication with her. So after her second year on the junior high school, made no small note what essentially is a natural stop.
round college now, We feel that a extremely valuable to help us develop the children many good quality.
as children and adults, like to be sure, and be inspired. In recognition and stimulating environment, they did more easily self-confident, more likely to progress. Many parents like the error lies in the total reward children with material things, it shows that they do not understand their children - for today and the children did not experience material shortages, material incentives do not, may bring temporary satisfaction, but not durable; only spiritual pleasure and sense of accomplishment, we can bring true happiness and motivation. I call this method, some parents say, and some people even said: This is because your kids to perform well. My children die every day gives me a headache, where there is nothing to record a good thing.
this idea is really wrong.
In fact, all the advantages of each child as much as they are often characterized is their advantage. The advantage is that the seeds stored in the hearts of children, need the right time to give proper cultivation, proper moisture to germination, root, flower and bear fruit. Unfortunately, many parents are too good at that child's shortcomings, the benefits to the child's sense of slow, full of criticism of the child all day and instructions. Children can grow up in mind the advantages of the original seed, is always subject to wind, frost, hail and blow and can not grow well until the wilt or death - which is why many children really covered in the last shortcoming, it is difficult to find the advantages of the .
A famous saying that the world does not lack beauty, beauty is found missing eyes. Parents have no time to even set a record on the kind of the at least one such set in the heart of the Mind there is no such a book, your eyes and speech will be revealed to the child can feel completely. You give him a record of Some parents question the child's strengths and weaknesses, will recognize the good aspects and bad aspects of that will be timely. Theoretically speaking this is true, but if the operation properly, there could be some problems.
Here is an example I encountered, typically.
it had to start with from the round. Round junior high school, I once told her what we were young, that in my hometown, people ridicule the achievements of those who thought to make people, would say . Round find this very funny, very interesting to imagine that scenario, we discuss that I'm looking piece of paper, draw round substantially above a urinal designs, and write It is not so much to inspire, as it is a our entertainment. Because the round has been no shortage of encouragement, she is also more mature. So in this
the piece of paper on the wall for a long time, been one of my friends saw that she was on the management of their own troubles with her daughter. I talked to her a homeopathic book set record merits the benefits. She felt that this method is very fresh, very good, also home to get that piece of paper affixed to the wall, encouraging her year-old daughter. Then one day I went to her house and saw she really did, but there are some problems in the operation.
about the paper is divided into two columns, while writing the advantages, while writing shortcomings. Parents are well-intentioned, both let the child know your strengths, but also let the children remember their own shortcomings. But this is clearly inappropriate.
as a Similarly, the shortcomings in black and white children write to the wall, continue to suggest that these behaviors can be stabilizing - originally wanted to abandon the bad thing, in which stimulation is easy to let the children to their qualitative, that those who Bad habits are bound to their own behavior. The end result is, the advantage would be a real advantage to consolidate; disadvantages will consolidate and become total also get rid of the disadvantages.
education all in the details, really hurt, injure, harm, impair ah.
children's reflective consciousness and control have not yet formed, they are more vulnerable to suggestion and interest in the disposal. The shortcomings of adults thought the child written and posted on the front of the child will often personal reminders, rational to correct their mistakes. The idea is that the characteristics of the children do not understand. Moreover, those who come to her home, people will see this piece of paper, so many shortcomings of the wall will damage children's self-esteem.
So I remind my friend, why the child does not want to show his side of the nail wall. Written, do not write the advantages disadvantages, only the mind of
worried she asked me a lot of kids want her to change bad habits, how to do it, do not write down to her mind you do not you? I said, of course, to remind, but want to change way of saying, take their children all the
such children do not take the piano, it always remind parents to practice, you can not write down practicing every day So the time you get around the problem, note the This way, the child will slowly get a sense of accomplishment, to practicing for the time, changed into skills training. When she stopped and parents fight, and my heart really want to train well in a song, she is playing for a while do not care much less playing a while; and the results will be serious training for half an hour better than waste time either for an hour.
still some worry about my friends asked me, do not point out the shortcomings of the child come? Do not point it out, she can not change the total defects, may be more serious, then how should we do?
I said, the reason why some parents are often criticized and educated children, because there is a deep-rooted in the false assumption that if he did not say, do not always remind the children not to correct shortcomings, will be more and more depraved . The fact is that every child is a self-esteem, and upward mobility is his nature, provided they are not distorted, it must be normal growth. A disadvantage for the children who may be appropriate to remind once again that this defect occurs, it should consider the use of positive encouragement, to help children overcome quietly, rather than direct criticism repeatedly, do not say give the number of times you said, you just do not change Repeated criticism as to the wall of the
his friends to make me more aware, I gave her some advice.
If your child dawdle to school every morning, there was always urging you to get dinner dress bag, ran out to get you dragged not to be late. Even if you're a day of If you have another way, the problem is fundamental improvements can be obtained. You can seriously talk about a friendly manner with the children, tell her that from tomorrow morning to go to school to master their own time. Then the second day, you really can do is not press. You just completed your own to do things, such as breakfast is ready, or ready to pack their own, ready to send their children. As a child, her own arrangements of time, you calmly wait for her to dawdle.
not meet the first day of the child may dawdle too late for an hour, anxious on the road crying, and you are angry, do not blame you remind her. At this time, you praise the child, said: You say this, be sincere and not hypocritical. As long as parents to persevere in good faith, do not get angry in the process, not accusations, not arranged, insisting that their children manage their own, often to the children identify positive areas, to give sincere praise. So, the child's sense of self management must be formed, a procrastinator could get rid of certain problems.
whether in kind or in his heart, parents should set up a small book for children. Only a Cherish the child's sense of honor, to avoid punitive records. Children are not at fault,UGG boots clearance, only immature; and immature it means that there is room for growth and growth possible. Parents should really enjoy the child's immature from the heart, from immature to see the United States. So that you easily open the
parents have on the performance in literacy and reason, whenever you are ready to adopt any method of teaching children, you have to think about the means adopted: Do you want to strengthen in the end is what you take is a favorite, or objectionable, the impact of its children is positive or negative, is the incentive or the offset is immediate or long-term, is a noble or vulgar? Do not think about these, but by emotions and habits of doing things, not only achieving its purpose, are more likely to fundamentally undermine the purpose. Special Note
today does not matter for children to experience a shortage of material incentives is not, may bring temporary satisfaction, but it will not last; only the spiritual pleasure and sense of accomplishment before they can bring true happiness and motivation. Parents have no time to even set a record on the kind of the at least one such set in the heart of the Mind there is no such a book, your eyes and speech will be revealed to the child can feel completely. You give him a record of
reason why some parents are often criticized and educated children, because there is a deep-rooted in the false assumption that if he did not say, do not always remind the children not to correct shortcomings, will be more and more depraved. The fact is that every child is a self-esteem, and upward mobility is his nature, provided they are not distorted, it must be normal growth. Repeated criticism as to the wall of the
No comments:
Post a Comment